The Fall of Man feat. Michael

¹Now the serpent was more cunning than any beast of the field which the Lord God had made. And he said to the woman, “Has God indeed said,
‘You shall not eat of every tree of the garden’?”
²And the woman said to the serpent, “We may eat the fruit of the trees of the garden; ³but of the fruit of the tree which is in the midst of the garden, God has said,
‘You shall not eat it, nor shall you touch it, lest you die.’ ”
⁴Then the serpent said to the woman, “You will not surely die. ⁵For God knows that in the day you eat of it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil.”
⁶So when the woman saw that the tree was good for food, that it was pleasant to the eyes, and a tree desirable to make one wise, she took of its fruit and ate. She also gave to her husband with her, and he ate. Then the eyes of both of them were opened, and they knew that they were naked; and they sewed fig leaves together and made themselves coverings. Genesis 3:1-7 NKJV

We didn't talk about the fact that the fruit is not and apple. That idea was popularized by Paradise Lost

Genesis 2:18 says it is not good that man be alone. This is the first time God says something is not good.

Little Light Studios is a ministry that breaks down subliminal (and not so subliminal) messages in modern TV shows. If nothing else, I recommend their video on the science of consuming media.

Ellen White, whom Michael references, is thought to be a prophet by some. I have never read her writings and therefore make no judgements about her.

When I said "that's a whole different topic" with respect to animals talking in the garden, I was thinking of a theory I've heard in which some people believe the serpent spoken of was not a literal serpent. I don't agree with this interpretation, but the reason I didn't bring it up was because I thought it would derailed the conversation.

Bible verses to reference

• Symbolism of Woman as a church
  1. Jeremiah 6:2
  2. Ephesians 5:23-32
  3. 2 Corinthians 11:2
  4. Revelation 19:7-8
• Fruit of the vine
  1. Ezekiel 17:23
  2. Hosea 10:1
  3. Matthew 7:16-20
  4. Luke 8:4-8
  5. John 15
• The serpent is the devil
  1. Revelation 12:9
  2. Revelation 20:2
• 2 Peter 3:8 - A day is like a thousand years

Fruit of the Spirit: Self Control featuring GirlTalkWithFo

Season 1 Episode 39

⁵For this very reason, make every effort to supplement your faith with goodness, goodness with knowledge, ⁶knowledge with self-control, self-control with endurance, endurance with godliness, ⁷godliness with brotherly affection, and brotherly affection with love. ⁸For if you possess these qualities in increasing measure, they will keep you from being useless or unfruitful in the knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ. 2 Peter 1:5-7 CSB

Is it odd that the only thing in life we can control is our self, but that's one of the toughest things to do? The final Fruit of the Spirit is Self Control (or Temperance). I called up published author and finance blogger GirlTalkWithFo to talk about this fruit.

About GirlTalkWithFo

Fo has written two books ("They That Wait" and "Dump Debt & Build Bank: The Everyday Chick’s Guide to Money") and has her own podcast, GirlTalkWithFo. She's also one of the first people I met in college. I've learned a lot about self control from her so it only seemed right to have her here for this episode.

Important Verses

• Acts 24:25
• 1 Corinthians 7:5,9
• 1 Corinthians 9:25
• 1 Thessalonians 5:6,8
• 1 Timothy 3:2,11
• 2 Timothy 3:3; 4:5
• Titus 1:8; 2:2, 5-6
• 2 Peter 1:6

References and Footnotes

GirlTalkWithFo Website

GirlTalkWithFo Podcast

Faneisha Ragin. They That Wait. May 25, 2015

Faneisha Alexander. Dump Debt & Build Bank: The Everyday Chick’s Guide to Money. February 24, 2019

The verse Fo is referencing is 1 Corinthians 15:33

"Quicker rather than not so quick"? Y'all I was definitely trying to say "sooner rather than later"

Fruit of the Spirit: Meekness (feat. DJ)

Season 1 Episode 34

Blessed are the meek: for they shall inherit the earth. Matthew 5:5 KJV

What does it mean to be meek? It’s a word we pass around but rarely define or dive into. Matthew 5:5 tells us the meek will inherit the earth, which means we should probably know what it means. DJ joined me as we tried to make sense of this Fruit of the Spirit and apply it to life.

About DJ

DJ and I met in the young adult ministry at our church. He participates in our Sabbath school and Bible study discussions, and like most of us, is trying to grow in his relationship with Christ.

Important Verses

• Numbers 12:3
• Psalm 37:11
• Zephaniah 2:3
• Matthew 11:29
• Matthew 12:19-20
• Matthew 21:4
• Galatians 6:1
• Ephesians 4:1-3
• Philippians 2:3
• 1 Timothy 6:11
• Titus 3:2
• James 1:21
• James 3:13
• James 4:6
• 1 Peter 2:23
• 1 Peter 3:15

References and Footnotes

1. I apologize for my air conditioner being so loud in the background. It was too hot to turn it off!
2. Philippians 2:3

Fruit of the Spirit: Faithfulness feat. Gramps

Season 1 Episode 31

¹Now faith is the reality of what is hoped for, the proof of what is not seen. ²For by it our ancestors won God’s approval. Hebrews 11:1-2 CSB

Photocredit: Unsplash.com/Diana Simumpande

Hebrews 11 is a perfect description of faith, but faith is something that you have to grow into--it's personal. Since faith comes from experience and wisdom, I asked my grandfather to join me in discussing this important Fruit of the Spirit.

About My Grandfather

My grandfather is a retired musician and a minister in the United Methodist Church. He serves as a chaplain in various organizations and preaches from time to time.

Acts of Faith Described in Hebrews

1. Hebrews 11:3 - Understanding that God created the world through His Word (Genesis 1)
   Today, people are ostracized if they believe in Creation. We can't fathom God merely speaking and things coming into existence. The invisible became visible, and it's hard for us to simply trust that. Thus this acknowledgement of God as the rightful supreme authority in the universe requires faith.
2. Hebrews 11:4 - Abel's sacrifice was better than Cain's because His was given through faith (Genesis 4)
   We may not sacrifice animals and crops anymore, thanks to Jesus' ultimate sacrifice, but we do sacrifice time, dreams, relationships, etc. for the glory of God. We should always be willing to give God our best!
3. Hebrews 11:5 - Enoch escaped death because of his faith (Genesis 5:24)
   Can you imagine how much faith a person has to have to be taken straight to Heaven with no need to actually die?
4. Hebrews 11:7 - Noah built the ark on faith (Genesis 6)
   The people around him had to have laughed at this outrageous act. Similarly, people today will laugh and mock us when we . do God's Will. It takes faith in God's Word to push past this criticism and do what God has called us to do.
5. Hebrews 11:8 - Abraham left his home on faith (Genesis 12)
   Living away from home is a big deal for most people. People are always shocked that I moved to South Florida alone and don't have family in the area. At least I have a cell phone, face chat software, a car, and access to flights. Abraham didn't have any of these things; he just struck out on his own.
6. Hebrews 11:11 - Faith allowed Sarah to conceive in her old age (Genesis 21)
   Many couples have fertility problems today and many women in the Bible had fertility issues. However, God made a way for each of them (Sarah, Rachel, Hannah, Elizabeth, etc.) Their faith is what kept them going.
7. Hebrews 11:13 - Those mentioned above knew prophecy. They wanted to see the "paradise" they would inherit and the savior who would bring this salvation, but they died before any of this came to pass. However, they died knowing it would come to pass.
8. Hebrews 11:17 - Abraham offered his only son as sacrifice (Genesis 22)
   God did exactly the same thing, except He had to allow Jesus to die (there was no alternative sacrifice waiting for him. Sometimes the sacrifice we are called to give feels like something we could never part with, but God is more important and always work the sacrifice.
9. Hebrews 11:20-22 - Isaac blesses Esau and Jacob; Jacob blesses his children; Joseph mentions the Exodus.
   Each of these men had faith in the promise that God would lead them into their own land where they would prosper.
10. Hebrews 11:23 - Moses hidden (Exodus 2)
    Despite the turmoil and evil around them, Moses parents had faith that God would protect their child.
11. Hebrews 11:24 - Moses rejects royalty(Exodus 2)
    Despite the turmoil and evil around them, Moses parents had faith that God would protect their child.
12. Hebrews 11:27-29 - Moses delivers Egypt (Exodus)
    Going back to Egypt was not an easy feat for Moses; he had to face his past (killing two Egyptians and confront Pharaoh). It takes faith for us to enter into certain situations and it may take even more faith to do the things God calls us to in those situations.
13. Hebrews 11:30 - The Battle of Jericho (Joshua 6)
    We have to let God fight our battles; it requires much less work on our part and is always successful.
14. Hebrews 11:31 - Rahab helps the Israelites (Joshua 2)
    In order for Rahab to help the Israelites and become grafted in to Israel, she had to betray the people she grew up with. Some times we have to leave those closes to us to become closer to God.
15. Hebrews 11:32-34 - The judges of Israel (Judges)
    When God called, they went to battle for Him, literally.

Footnotes and References

1. Both my grandparents taught music, so I began learning from them at a very early age.
2. I have no idea how old my grandfather is and the revelation that he is somewhere near 80 was actually a shock to me during the episode.
3. That is actually me playing "Great is Thy Faithfulness" at the end on the podcast. Pardon my intonation, I'm a bit out of practice.

Fruit of the Spirit: Goodness featuring Maryam

Season 1 Episode 27

God saw all that he had made, and it was very good indeed. Evening came and then morning: the sixth day. Genesis 1:31 CSB

Photocredit: Unsplash.com/Annie Spratt

What does "goodness" mean? God said everything He created was good; the Messiah said only God is good. Maryam and I sat down to talk about how we've been defining good and how our respective religions and cultures have shaped that perception.

About Maryam

Maryam and I have known each other for about 4 years. We met in graduate school and ended up with the privilege of working together. Maryam is a devout Muslim and we often have conversations about religion and culture.

Transcript?

I usually do a full transcript but I've been having trouble with the software I use to transcribe the episodes and I've been too busy to do it manually. If not having a transcript is a huge problem for you please contact me, either using the contact form on the website or via the comment section. If no one complains about missing the transcripts, future episodes will only have the show notes.

Footnotes and References

In the beginning, when Maryam is telling us her definition of good, that jingling sound is Bubbles (my cat) in the background.

The Fruit of the Spirit are discussed in Galatians 5:22-23

In the discussion about works vs. faith, I'm referencing Sola Fide (by faith alone). A great summary of what I believe (plus Bible verses to support that argument can be found on GotQuestions.org.

The Greek word for "goodness" is ἀγαθωσύνη.

"19. agathosune". Bible Hub; visited June 2019

The Hebrew word for "goodness" is טוּב.

"2898. tub". Bible Hub; visited June 2019

"goodness". Merriam Webster; visited June 2019

The quote in which Jesus/Yeshua asks why someone is calling Him good can be found in Matthew 19:17, Mark 10:18, and Luke 18:19.

The video I reference in which someone points out that good is always in reference to a standard is called "You Are Good" and it is by Jon Jorgenson.

The book I'm referencing is Just Mercy by Bryan Stevenson. I highly recommend! (It's also slated to come to theaters in 2020)

Fruit of the Spirit: Gentleness featuring Val

When I first think of gentleness, I don’t think of me, or anyone in my family. I was locked into a definition of the word that doesn’t fully encompass what it truly means. David, the warrior, was gentle. Jesus, who ridded the Temple of gamblers, was gentle... So I had to redefine the word based on The Word.

Season 1 Episode 24

A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger. Proverbs 15:1 CSB

Time
00:01:04	Ree:	Hey everybody! Welcome back to the PSALMS to God podcast! Today I have another guest with me, and this time I am back to inviting family to the podcast. This person is really important, and I'm really excited to have them on the podcast, because they have been extremely influential in my life; and you can thank them or blame them—depending on how you feel about the podcast—for me actually having a podcast. So this is my cousin Val. Obviously because she's my cousin, I've known her forever! She's known me before I knew her. She was actually my teacher in elementary school, She was my keyboarding teacher—so you can also thank her for me being a computer scientist, because that's kind of the foundation of working with computers. And then when I got older, she became the Bible study/youth ministry person at the church. She started our youth ministry program, and that's where I learned that I could read the Bible and study it for myself—so that's how I ended up here with this podcast! And now, she does a lot of things with the youth. She is a pastor, and it only seems right to have her on the podcast. So welcome to the podcast, Val!
00:02:30	Val:	Thank you! Hello, hello, hello! I am so glad and excited to be here, and I am truly humbled by all that you have said. Oh, my heart is melting. I am so very, very proud of you, though. I tell you. I couldn't even begin to take any credit; I give it all to God, because you are truly powerful, and I thank God that you are such the world changer that you are. So I thank you, because you inspire me to want to be better and do better.
00:03:02	R:	Oh man. Circular... Circular inspiration! That's how Christian Fellowship is supposed to work.
00:03:08	V:	Cool. So True. Now can we pass that on to the World?
00:03:09	R:	Yes. So, since I started doing the podcast, I’ve been doing a series on the Fruit of the Spirit, because I feel like I believe we focus on loving God, and you know believing and all of that stuff, but we don't really think about how that should be changing us as a person, and how that should be reflecting in our everyday life. And I realized that a lot of the Fruit of the Spirit, I don't actually sit down and think about what it means or how it's applied to life. And so I started from the first Fruit of the Spirit—they're all listed in Galatians 5 starting in verse 22—and I've been working my way through. And now we're at gentleness.
00:03:53	V:	Nice!
00:03:54	R:
Photocredit: Unsplash.com/John Reign Abarintos

And when I started looking at gentleness, I was I was a little shook, because when I first read the word, I was like, “Gentleness?” I was like I don’t think I know anybody that I would describe as gentle.

00:04:17	V:	And I don’t know how you called me on this.
00:04:19	R:	I was talking to my parents, and I was like, “Nobody in our family is gentle!” We some blunt, short tempered—
00:04:34	V:	Uh huh
00:04:35	R:	I've started to get worried. I was like, “I don’t have this fruit.” Not only do I not have this, I don't know who to call!
00:04:44	V:	And again, you called who? I’m sure I was not your first thought.
00:04:52	R:	The deeper I got into it, I actually surprised myself. So I wanted to start... This one is actually going to be a little bit closer to a word association than the other ones, because I really wanted to get out what it actually means to be gentle.
00:05:09	V:	Good.
00:05:10	R:	So when you hear the word gentle, what do you think?
00:05:13	V:	Oh wow. When I hear the word gentle, I think not of me. I’d probably go with what you said earlier about “Oh wow. Hold on. That does not explain... It doesn't really relate to us. But…” Yeah, but when I think of the word gentle, I usually think of someone who may be meek and a little less like back than myself. But I also think about how when an individual is actually gentle, it could cause a person to actually be drawn more to you. So when I think about gentle, I don’t think about me.
00:06:06	R:	Yeah. I started writing down things... One of the things I wrote was not blunt, which like I said, I feel like everybody in our family is blunt.
00:06:15	V:	Right, right.
00:06:16	R:	You know, I wrote down, like, selfless, giving without expectation, showing compassion, able able to deal with like fragile situations; I wrote down comforting, soothing, easygoing—
00:06:33	V:	Oooh I like those.
00:06:34	R:	And then I looked it up online, and somebody wrote down “humble, polite, and restrained behavior.[1] And I was like “Yeah… That's kind of what I think about when I think about gentleness!”
00:06:50	V:	OK. OK.
00:06:51	R:	So then I was like, so who? I can't think of a person, like a person I know.
00:06:58	V:	Yeah, we can only call Jesus. I’m sorry.
00:07:00	R:	So I was like, who in the Bible did they describe as gentle? And of course they described Jesus as gentle. And so I started looking at these verses, and you know there's a verse where Paul says that he comes to people with the gentleness of Christ.[2] I was like, “Yeah, Jesus was gentle!” But then I remembered, Jesus threw the money changers out the temple[3]—
00:07:24	V:	Uh oh. You’re about to get serious now. Now it gets deep.
00:07:29	S:	Yeah… and I was like, so gentle doesn't mean that you're a pushover; it doesn't mean that you never speak up, and it doesn't mean you're weak.
00:07:41	V:	Right. Right. And if it's saying the word gentle, considering that Strong's: it's talking about χρηστότης (chréstotés),[4] which means usefulness. Then if he's turning over the tables, then he's doing it for our good, for their good, and it was useful, because it was a message that even now, we could benefit from—in terms of what's supposed to happen at church. But when people talk about Jesus, and they say “Oh well He was so meek and mild—
00:08:20	R:	Jesus had some comebacks.
00:08:23	V:	Thank you! Like we'll sit on the same side of the fence and we can really go all day on that one, because I think people fail to see—which is why we lose so many people in church, because when reality sets in, it's like we lied to people. Because yes He was gentle, but on the same token, I think it all as to with what the situation calls for.
00:08:52	R:	Yes. Um, I'm going to continue that thought, but before that I'm going to insert, because you mentioned χρηστότης (chréstotés)[4] which is the Greek word that is used in the original. It’s actually there in the original translation of the Septuagint and in the New Testament where gentleness is used as the Fruit of the Spirit.[5] And in some translation it says kindness. And then, I also looked up in Hebrew, for if you're looking to the Old Testament, there's the word chesed[6]—I’m probably pronouncing this wrong; sidenote: I'm learning Hebrew, so bear with me on that—
00:09:33	V:	You did that
00:09:34	R:	But that's the word that is used in the Old Testament. But back on the situation, so another person that I thought about from the Bible that is also actually gentle that you would not think about is David. We think of David as being a warrior; he slayed Goliath. He was out there doing battle, and he was you know kicking butt and taking names. But when Saul cracked up, and you know. that his possession on with these demonic spirits, it was David playing the harp that soothed him/ David had the gentle hand to soothe him. And David also, when Saul turned and tried to kill David, David didn't kill Saul. He just kept, you know, moving from place to place to avoid Saul. So even though he was a warrior, he was actually gentle.
00:10:27	V:	Exactly. And also, I like the fact that you brought David up, and you said the very first thing that you said about him, in terms of what he could have done. Because that spoke volume. Because had the wherewithal, he had the ability to take Saul, but he chose not to. I love the fact that you chose him, because gentleness quite naturally has to be the Fruit the Spirit for him to be able to actually with hold what he had, because that type of disdain... I'm sorry, if you're trying to kill me and I choose—
00:11:10	R:	Right!?
00:11:11	V:	OK, but he chose to move from place to place; that's only having God in you.
00:11:18	R:	Yes, and there's a verse I wrote down... James 3:17. It talks about how gentleness comes from God. Obviously, we know if it's a Fruit of the Spirit, you have to get it from the Holy Spirit, bu that that verse reiterates like you can't do that on your own.
00:11:36	V:	Exactly. Exactly.
00:11:38	R:	You can't make that kind of decision on your own.
00:11:43	V:	That takes a little more wisdom than our own.
00:11:46	R:	Yes.
00:11:47	V:	And strength.
00:11:49	R:	And so, you know, after I thought about Jesus, and I thought about David, and how they... You know they had these gentle moments, but they also had these moments where they were you know they were just real. I started to realize that it's more about how you handle certain situations. So another example from Jesus that popped into my head is when he talks to the Samaritan woman.[7] I mean he's basically reading her, ‘cause he's telling her, you know, “You done had 5 husbands,” and all this stuff.He put it all out there. He didn't sugarcoat it; He didn't like dress it up, but He approached her in private.
00:12:30	V:	Right. Right.
00:12:31	R:	I wrote down that gentleness is that you feel loved in the process of being told, because what happened is he told her exactly what the deal was, but at the end of it she repented. Because she felt loved in what He was expressing. So that it's a way of being able to tell the truth, in love.
00:12:55	V:	Right Right. You know that I think that's what's actually missing, not just... And I speak a lot about what I feel about the Church, when I say the Church I mean the Church as a whole, in terms of the Church and the institution. But ultimately that's across the board, though. Because even in places that, where you have employers, when you have employers who are dealing with employees, you have to have that level of gentleness. Because if not, you will lose respect for those individuals, quickly. When you're saying, “Well I need you to do so and so,” but if you're saying that you need someone to do something, and you say that, and then you have a harshness in your voice (as opposed to a gentleness), you will get something done a whole lot quicker with the gentleness as opposed to the harshness.
00:14:05	R:	Yeah. You catch more flies with sugar and honey than with vinegar.
00:14:09	V:	Exactly! I think that’s why this podcast is so important, especially to—not just to believers, but also for a lot of younger people, because for a lot of younger people it gives understanding. as to, you know, being a little more tolerant. Because I think both sides; intergenerational we could use more tolerance and more resilience.
00:14:38	R:	Yeah. With all of that in mind, I revisited this question of knowing people who are gentle, and I started thinking more about how people approach situations, and how people handle specific situations. And the first situation that popped up into my head is from elementary school. I can't remember if I was in 4th or 5th grade, because I'm getting old, and that was a long time ago.
00:15:10	V:	And she’s nowhere near my age. Thanks Ree.
00:15:16	R:	But, I was either in 4th or 5th grade, and they were having a play at the school. And I tried out for the play with all my friends. Everyone that I was friends with made the play, like they all got a part in the play, but I did not. I don't even know, like I’ve never had goals to be like an actress or anything like that. That's never been my thing, but I think at the time, I just felt left out, because you know in elementary school—and even in middle school and high school—friendship is kind of based on... It’s just being in the same place at the same time, you know? My friend group typically changed based on what class I was in—’cause we had lunch together, we had recess together. And then as I got high school, most of my friends were in band, because we were always together and things like that. So when all my friends were in this play, and I realized that I wasn't going to be in the play. It’s like OK, so you guys are going to be at the play practice and the rehearsals, and then I'm not going to be there. So when I do see you, I'm going to be like a third wheel, because you're going to be talking about this play all the time that I'm not involved.
00:16:26	R:	And so I think... You know and of course, like at that age, you just feel like the world is ending—like you ain't never going to have no more friends, it's horrible, like you're a failure. I don't know why, but you just, everything hits you so much harder when you're younger.
00:16:43	R:	And I remember, we must have found out like who made the list and everything right before lunch. So we go to lunch, and we're in the cafeteria. We’re standing in line waiting to get food, and I bent down to tie my shoe. And I think when I bent down to tie my shoe, all of this just kind of hit me. And I did not want to get up. Like I'm basically tying my shoe forever, like about to cry. Just in my feelings about the fact that I have not made this play.
00:17:17	R:	And I don't know if you remember, ‘cause you sound like you don't know where the story is going. but...
00:17:24	V:	No but actually, believe it or not, a lot of things slide pass my memory. Not that I don’t want to remember it, but it hurts my heart to hear it.
00:17:37	R:	So, there are I am, at in the cafeteria, tying my shoe for way too long, not getting up, and there's a teacher, who comes out of the computer room.
00:17:50	V:	Huh? Which was my room?
00:17:52	R:	Yeah! It was you! You came out of the computer room and you saw me there tying my shoe for forever, and you came and got me out of line to ask me what was going on, and what was wrong.
00:18:08	V:	Oh my God! Are you serious?
00:18:10	R:	Yeah. And you're the one who told me that the world was ending because I wasn't in this play.
00:18:15	V:	God look at you! Jesus! Whoo, thank You, Jesus.
00:18:19	R:	And I remember I was like... I was like, “Yeah in that moment, you knew exactly what to say.” I don't remember exactly what you said, but I know that you said something that made me feel better about the situation. Like in that moment, you know, you didn’t can come out and be like “Haha, you didn't make it.” But you, like you came and you were like “OK, I'm going to take you, and I'm going to talk to you.
00:18:47	R:	And you know for those who are listening, I have a cousin that is the same age as me. We're both cousin. It’s her niece.[8] And so we were in the same class and she was one of my friends that actually made it into the play.
00:19:00	V:	Oh no!
00:19:01	R:	Yeah, so when you walked up, you know, everyone was celebrating, and she was saying like “Yay, I'm in the play!” and I'm just like on the ground, like trying not to cry, and so like in that moment you knew that I needed attention. And I'm sure like afterward you came back to congratulate everybody, but I was thinking about that and I was like that is a characteristic gentleness.
00:19:23	V:	Oh my Gosh! you just really, really, really, just made my day. I’m still hurt by that, but you know that the irony is that for you to tell me that, you have really just taught me something. And I'm thinking about me as if it weren't even me that did that, if it makes sense. I'm thinking about that person that actually did that, and it's like, when I think back to when you were in the fourth or fifth grade, like that was when I was first moving back down here. So many things were happening in my life during that time, and to hear you say this. And I’m so full, because I’m like “God, I thank You. That You never, you know, allowed me to get so focused on myself, that I forget to do, or neglect to do, what is necessary, even in those times. You know what I mean? Because, if anybody only knew the level of turmoil that I had actually been going through about that time, now—leaving Philadelphia, which you know the money that I made, and you know my cost of living. Everything was pretty good there. I could have been doing better, but I mean my skills were, you know, getting up there. I was, really.. It was like a come up. And so, when I came back, I was trying to get back to that place I was there, which it just seemed like it was a mountain to climb. But to hear this story, now. It’s just… Oh my gosh, it's like so unbelievable. And then for me to like not particularly remember it, I’m humbled. You know what I mean? Believe it or not yeah. I thank God for you, and I thank God that He allowed that situation that happened.
00:21:24	R:	Yeah, I mean every moment is a moment to learn.
00:21:28	V:	Amen! Oh my gosh, you are so right.
00:21:32	R:	After I thought about that, I remember, of course time passed, and when we got into our teen years and you started, you know, the Bible study... You know, I distinctly remember there being push back. You know any time there's change, people in the church get a lil’ concerned, and they don't necessarily like these ideas.
00:21:56	V:	Right.
00:21:57	R:	And you know, I'm sure we didn't make it easier. Just to give the listeners some background, the church that I grew up in, we are basically all related. So, not only do you have church drama, you have family drama, as well.
00:22:17	V:	So True.
00:22:18	R:	So we were all about the same age, and we're all like cousins, and we're teenagers... So, we had our dramas and everything. And I remember like we used to have our little rifts or whatever and you would basically have to play like mediator in Bible study.
00:22:36	V:	Yes. And we were like pretty much close family.[9]
00:22:43	R:	Yeah
00:22:44	V:	Like how do you do this?
00:22:46	R:	But I remember, like we loved going to Bible study. Earlier in the episode, you were talking about gentleness draws people to you, and I was like “Yeah! I’m glad she said that,” because we loved going to Bible study. And even when I stopped going to that particular church, I used to still come to Bible study.
00:23:16	V:	I remember some too.
00:23:19	R:	If my memory is serving me correctly, when you left—so you know, she got married and then she and her husband went to her husband’s church; her husband also a pastor, and so they left. And if I remember correctly, I think pretty much everybody[10] stopped going to that church after you left.
00:23:42	V:	Oh wow. I’m surprised God still loves me.
00:23:50	R:	But I was like yeah there is definitely a gentleness there, even though it's not what we typically think of as gentle; it’s not the first thing that comes to our mind, but like the feeling is there.
00:24:01	V:	Awww
00:24:02	R:	So I was like I gotta cal Val because it just makes sense to call Val to talk about gentleness.
00:24:03	V:	Wow! I don’t know id Wally would agree with that. My husband would be like “what?”
00:24:15	R:	Well, tell him to listen to the episode!
00:24:20	V:	Yeah right? Yeah, you can teach him. You know it’s funny also that you mentioned about the closeness of everyone, because there was something that RaSha’d[11] said to me like a long time ago. And now listening to you say that, it was like again, I’m humbled by all that. But now you know when you look back on things you pretty much want to tell God thank You for… You be like, “Yes! I’m glad I handled that right.” He was mentioning something about... We were talking about youth ministry, and he said “yeah you know there were times where even though I was your son, I felt like everybody else got better treatment.” I was like well it’s kind of like when you're in a classroom, and nobody should ever give their own child preferential treatment.
00:25:16	R:	Yeah, now that you mention it, I do feel like you treated everybody the same. Like it... like I definitely feel like if he did something, you know you was going to call him out for it. And I feel like, like I said, we're all cousins and because I was basically growing up an only child at the time, when I think about it these were like my siblings. And I mean that's how it felt, like we were all just siblings. You know like, I said this is a small family church. It’s the South. Everybody had permission to beat us. Like I felt like if you acted a certain way, she might come ‘cross the table on you, and the probability was just as high for him as it was for anybody else.
00:26:01	V:	Or as he would put it: or worse. Exactly though.
00:26:08	R:	But you know, that's what that's what made it that's what made it feel like home.
00:26:13	V:	Right, you kind of miss those days though.
00:26:15	R:	Yes. Yeah, yeah. Now that I'm older and I'm trying to teach youth, I’m like “Oooo weee. How she did that?”
00:26:22	V:	You have it. You got it. I already know that you got it. Everybody says, “Shiree’s just like Val. So I’m like OK, you need to own it. In that sense.
00:26:34	R:	Had a couple of questions that are for you, more so as a youth leader and as a pastor, and also you know as a parent. ‘Cause you know your walk with Christ changes in each season of your life. You know, you have your season when you're a baby, when you're a teenager, when you're a young believer. And then I've noticed like now that I'm a young adult, things mean different things and I'm starting to learn more. And I assume you know, should God bless me with a husband, things will change once, you know, I transition into married life; and if I have a child, I assume things would change even more as a parent. Since I can only provide the perspective of the young and the single. I was like let me ask Val some questions about gentleness as we grow.
00:27:23	R:	The first question that I wanted to ask is as a pastor, how do you deliver the Word of God gently? Like we talked about how Jesus pulled the Samaritan lady to the side, like He met with her in private, to tell her about herself. And I feel like, when you listen to pastors, you have the pastors who are up there just giving you a feel good sermon, and they ain’t really telling you like it is. They just telling you something to make you clap your hands and shout amen. But then you have the pastors that have people kind of like scared to come into the church, ‘cause you know they might be just stepping over the bounds just a little. And like you kind of want to be in the middle, where it's like you're telling the truth but in a way that people will repent and do better.
00:28:16	V:	Right, right,
00:28:17	R:	And so like how have you been navigating that?
00:28:18	V:	Oh my goodness. That’s interesting that you would ask that. But a very long time ago, God was very specific with me. I’m kind of shocked that I was called into the ministry; I was really shocked. Because one I do not like talking in front of a lot of people. Two, I definitely don't like standing in front of people. Three, I don't like people looking at me—
00:28:46	R:	You sound like Moses right now.[12]
00:28:48	V:	Oh my gosh! You would have to say that as I’m sitting here with Exodus open in my Bible. Yeah, believe it or not, one of my life verses is about Moses actually. But, essentially what God really said to me, and he was very specific about it, was the verse where he talks about don't be afraid of men and their faces.[13] I’m one that… It’s pretty, like you said, it’s profound, actually because they're there were seasons in my life where I just could not say anything. And I just I'm really grateful for him because those are the seasons where He preserved me. And the reason why I say that was because how I would deliver that type of message would be based upon Him. And so, God knows what you need when you need it. Like I'm not one that would say that I'm all out for topical sermons in terms of you know okay for the next two months we're going to just, you know, preach about this, because I just—I mean I love structure, don't get me wrong. But I'm one that I really believe that whatever God has for an individual is what He has for them. And so when He's giving it, you want to be careful to say what He says. And when I heard those words, and I hear them often, where He’s literally saying to me, “You say what I say.” People have, you know, pretty much tried to make me feel like, you know, you have to do this, and you have to do that. People even try to give you a message. And even though I don’t preach every Sunday,[14] I go whenever I'm called to preach, however wherever I’m called to, I’m careful—making sure that I'm hearing from God and not from people.
00:30:52	V:	And so, in order for me to deliver that message the way that He would have me to deliver it… Number one, I know that God would not humiliate people; that's not being gentle.
00:31:06	R:	Exactly.
00:31:07	V:	I know that he would give you a word, just like you stated earlier with with Jesus. He put it out there, but He was careful how He put it out there. Remember when she came to, when the woman was at the well, she came at a time of day where there wasn't a whole lot of people there—
00:31:25	R:	And he knew that!
00:31:26	V:	Exactly! Because Jesus was strategic that way. It was like, because He was led by God Himself, He knew when to go and when not to go, where to be and where not to be You see what I’m saying?
00:31:41	R:	Yes! And He sent the disciples off so that it would just be the two of them.
00:31:46	V:	Exactly! And so, believe it or not, that's how I live my life now. And when I say I live my life now is like that, you know that I left the school district. During that season that I was leaving the district I was making the decision: OK, do I go full-time with this nonprofit? Which more less is pretty much... It looks … It kind of resembles the church; it kind of resembles what God is calling for the Church to do, in terms of social justice and in terms of making sure the people aren’t oppressed. And so essentially during that time frame, a lot happened again, you know what I mean? I’m just one that God let stuff happen. I be—as everyone always says, I’m always innocent, but as He's allowing things to happen, all I’ve learned to do is accept what He allows. Because I know that he's allowing it for a purpose, and so if Satan comes for me, obviously God has already given me the tools to deal with what he has coming.
00:33:04	V:	And so, just in this past few seasons in terms of, you know, how I say things and what I say to people, I literally was at a point where I really did not preach many messages. I did more speaking to people directly. And so God had me in a season, where as He was preparing me for my next level and my next season, He was also doing something in terms of shielding me. So when I say that I trust God, when I can't trace Him, that's why; because He will always give you a hedge of protection. Like He will have it so that people will not call you to preach. People will not… And you know they may think they’re doing it to harm you, or they may think you know, “We don’t want to hear from her right now;” well that’s fine. Because I know that God has you in a holding pattern for a reason, and so when he shielding you and putting you in that holding pattern, you have to be able to hear from Him for what He's going to do for His people. Anything that happens in your life is not for you. Your anointing was never meant to be for you. Any words that God gives me to speak to people, no matter where I am, whether I’m in the pulpit or not in the pulpit, I have to give it to people the way that God says it. And that means that I won't do it in a way that is offensive to them and cause them not to come into the fold. That's what's missing. If you do not deliver this the way that God will have you to deliver it, you are ultimately causing individuals to lose out on what God so freely gave to us. If I give a gift, you would offend me if you don't take that gift. God gave us a gift. When He allowed His Son to die on that cross, He gave us a gift, and that gift was for the body. And so because that gift was for the body, who are we to cause anybody to be denied of that gift. So I can't let my harsh words cost someone salvation; it’s not mine to give. And they're not my people.They're God's people, and when it comes to souls, we are called to save souls, we're called to bring souls to Christ. God does the saving. He said one plants, one waters, but I'll provide the increase. And so if you see that there is a decrease in the Church, it's because somebody denied somebody of the water that was necessary. There's a thirst and a hunger for righteousness, but not when you see people that are being rude, and mean, and obnoxious from the pulpit, and being Bible toting bullies.
00:35:54	R:	That was a great answer. You over there preaching a word!
00:35:57	V:	Uh oh. Ok, let me pass the hat.
00:36:03	R:	And then, the other question I had was, how do you feel like being a parent has affected your ability to deliver things gently? Because you know I think God gives us the roles of parenting so that we also understand His predicament, because He's the Father and that's our parallel. And I was wondering, obviously God is the originator of gentleness, and like I said, I'm not a parent, but I know that when I was a kid, I might have said and done some things that probably made my mama want to snatch my life back. And so I can only imagine[15]... I was just wondering how that impacted your ability to deliver things gently.
00:36:57	V:	Wow. You know, God really does have a sense of humor. It’s so interesting that I wasn’t called into the ministry until he was old enough to be away. But that’s so interesting that you would ask that, because you know that once we got married, we had to raise our son who is actually not my biological child, but yet still, we couldn't necessarily show that. And so in terms of gentleness, and being parent… Being a parent number one, is by far one of the greatest gifts that, you know, anyone could have. However it also comes with challenging times, and because it comes with challenging times, parents have the unique responsibility of making sure that they're in the face of God all the times. Because without having His loving-kindness, you could really have a very, very difficult household. You need God because first of all when husband and wife are coming together, you are kind of like soldering two different personalities, because they have to merge. And so in order those two to become one, they have to come into alignment, they have to come into agreement. And so bringing a third individual into that ultimately means that there will be a cause for a lot of submission. Because that child is going to be the embodiment of what happens in that home, and so because of your example, it is imperative that we remember as parents that those little people grow up to be big people. And so we can either make them as little people, or we can break them as little people.
00:38:53	V:	Ultimately, I think that what it would call for is for you to have a genuine relationship with God, because even when you were talking about the scenario about when you were tying your shoe, I had to know that there was another individual there besides those students, and the mother in another individual should be the one that would actually go to you. There should never be a time when an individual is going through on their own, whether you're a child or an adult, because we're here to bear each other's burdens. And when we look for comfort, we can't be so caught up in ourselves that we don't see another person hurting. And so compassion is one that God has given us as a gift. He’s given us a spirit of compassion, so who are we not to share it with others?
00:39:49	R:	Yeah! So one of the things, after I was going through all that and I was like, “Yeah. Yeah this is cool,” I realized I had looked up gentleness as a Hebrew word and as a Greek word, but I didn’t actually look it up as an English word, and so I finally got around to looking up the English definition.
00:40:07	V:	I thought you were about to say Aramaic. I was like oh gosh, whoa!
00:40:10	R:	No. I'm not that good, yet! But when I looked up the English dictionary version, I ended up looking it up in Merriam Webster[16] and I found something that blew my mind. So the very first definition of gentle as an adjectives is belonging to a family of high social standing. You know for the first time I understood the word “gentleman,” because you know they have the word gentleman. I always thought it just meant, you know, he's not a thug, but the way that word actually came into being is that these were men who were from families of high social standing. And what really blew my mind with that being the very first definition is the only way you can receive the Fruit of the Spirit is that you have accepted Christ, you've accepted the Holy Spirit. That means you have surrendered to God, which means He has adopted you as a son or daughter,[17] which means you are a child of the Most High; which means you belong to a family of high social standing.
00:41:40	V:	Wow! Look at God! We’re royalty!
00:41:43	R:	And I just like “Oh!” I mean if you keep reading the definition, it gets down to like you know delicate and kind, amiable, things like that, but it it mainly focuses on, you know, there are multiple places where it talks about high social standing. And I often wonder because I went back and looked, and there's actually another Fruit of the Spirit that is kindness, which is closely related to gentleness. And I was like I wonder if when he said gentleness, when they first you know translated the Bible into English, and translated you know that word to gentle, I wonder if they actually meant this first definition, that just by nature of accepting the gift that God gave us, we now belong with family of high social standing—and of course with that comes responsibilities.
00:42:44	V:	Right. Right. Interesting!
00:42:48	R:	Yeah, that was like my mindblower. Like whoa! I was like, this is what happens when you actually look words up in the dictionary. Finding out words I've been using my whole life don’t mean what I thought they meant.
00:43:05	V:	You know what? Believe it or not, word studies are probably my favorite, because like when I started going to BSF, that was one of the things that—oh, Bible Study Fellowship—that was one of the things that actually drew me to that. Because they were so in depth, and because of the fact that they literally will teach you things like homiletics and hermeneutics and would give you that push, just to make you just say ”OK, wait I want to know this. I want to know more.” God is so awesome. When we tell people, “Well, make sure you read The Word,” I feel like we do people an injustice, because we don't explain to them what that actually means to read The Word. Because when you talk to anybody, they almost have the same conversation or response: like “I do, but I puts me to sleep.” And I'm just like wait, but The Word of God is like full, and—
00:44:23	R:	Rich!
00:44:24	V:	Yeah, I'm like I can go and look up one thing, and before I know it, I'm just sitting there like finding something else and going to something else. Like I just can't stop. You know what I mean? Ee always talked about how when you accept Christ, that when you're reading The Word, that God is actually coming into alignment with His Son and that that connection and that relationship; it's so empowered, and it fills us. And so I'm like “No, I don't want to go to sleep. I want more! That would wake you up.”
00:45:15	R:	Did you have any final thoughts on gentleness that you wanted to share with the listeners?
00:45:24	V:	I like what you said earlier about James 3, and if I can go back to James 3 with you in terms of James 3:17, wherein it said: “ But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, and easy to be intreated, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality, and without hypocrisy.” That is so profound.
00:46:07	R:	Yes.
00:46:08	V:	Oh my goodness that is so major.
00:46:09	R:	I feel like this Bible verse—I mean no shade in the Bible verse that is up in the church that I grew up in. It's a great verse— but I feel like this Bible verse should be hung on every wall in every Church.
00:46:47	V:	Yes! When we actually think about His goodness and then we we turn around and come in contact with other individuals, how could we even say that we are His children if we don't do these things, in terms of the Fruit of the Spirit, and if we don’t pay homage to that particular verse? We need that! I’m sorry, but that verse was like a mind blower and you know everything you know goes back to interpretation for different stages in life. You know what I mean? I think that’s one that we could possibly say, you know, that God does give wisdom. And even with this that particular verse that He’s pretty much like laying it on the line. You know that goes hand-in-hand with Fruit of the Spirit, because it goes on to say that again pure, friendly, gentle. OK? Sensible, kind, genuine and sincere. But you know what I mean?
00:48:00	R:	You gotta have all of it!
00:48:02	V:	Exactly! And if we don't do that as the body, ultimately it’s going to be a sad day trying to get people to come to Christ. I mean the Bridegroom is looking for His bride.
00:48:16	V:	This is great! I love it!
00:48:20	R:	Thank you so much for coming on the podcast!
00:48:23	V:	Thank you. Oh my goodness, I’ve had enough church just right now. I’m so full!
00:48:33	R:	Alright guys, thank you for tuning in. I hope this was helpful for you guys and beneficial, and that we all know more about what gentleness actually means and how to apply it to our day-to-day lives. As always, citations and transcripts will be in the show notes at www.psalmstogod.com/gentleness. Don't forget to like and subscribe! And I will see you guys next time.

Fruit of the Spirit: Patience feat. Derrell (Part 2)

You mean to tell me I can’t just wake up more patient? Patience is like a six pack, you have to go to the gym, sweat a little, feel gross, and wake up in pain a few times before you can claim the honor. So maybe it takes two episodes to talk about, too.

Season 1 Episode 21

¹⁰Be kindly affectioned one to another with brotherly love; in honour preferring one another;
¹¹Not slothful in business; fervent in spirit; serving the Lord;
¹²Rejoicing in hope; patient in tribulation; continuing instant in prayer;
¹³Distributing to the necessity of saints; given to hospitality.
¹⁴Bless them which persecute you: bless, and curse not. Romans 12:10-14 CSB

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00:01:29	Ree:	Hey guys. Welcome back to the PSALMS to God podcast. Once again I have my friend Derrell here, and we're talking about patience. So this is the second part of the last episode. If you have not already listen to the first episode on patience, you will definitely want to check it out. I try not to do 2 part episodes where you actually need to listen to them in a certain order, but this time I think it's best if you listen to the first episode first and this one second, because there is some continuance of conversation and we probably will be referencing things from the previous episode since it was actually one conversation. But without further ado this is the rest of Darrell and I’s conversation about patience and what we've experienced concerning patience in life.
00:02:23	R:	So Derrell, let's continue our conversation on patience. Looking back, how do you feel about those injuries?
00:02:33	D:	Like just that fast... Like I said, the second I tore my knee, I thought I was done. I thought that was it. And I was like “Man, I spent my money. I invested all this time. I spent all this time away from my friends and family.” And to be chasing this one thing, and it’s possibly over. ‘Cause I thought I had torn my ACL, MCL, PCL.[1] Come to find out a meniscus is actually a very commonly torn ligament. It’s something runners tear all the time. Sometimes they can be back 2 weeks, 6 weeks. ‘Cause I had to have the surgery, my whole recovery period was 6 months, but I was up on my feet and walking after 2 weeks of surgery—from surgery. Actually I was walking a week after surgery. In 2 weeks they cleared me to go back to the gym and start working out again. Light stuff, but I could start working out again.
00:03:22	R:	It's better than nothing.
00:03:24	D:	So, when I say like patience is something that taught me. I had to have patience. But patience isn’t just about... Because some people think I need to be patient about—patient in traffic you know? Like sometimes there’s gonna be traffic, you have to have patience. Because one thing people say, “I really got to get to such and such.” Well, what if this traffic is keeping you from getting into a collision up the road? How often do people think about that? Or how about when you leave the house but you say, “Aw man, my left my bag at the house. Now I have to turn around.” Well, take the time. Be patient. Go back and get it, because what if the reason why you left that, and you had to go back was a drunk driver was going to be caught speeding through a red light you were going to be at and that could’ve hit you? You know. So, when you think about things like that, like sometimes patience is for the virtue, and sometimes people want the now, now, now. When you gotta let things—just take your time.
00:04:34	D:	My dream didn’t just come out of nowhere. I actually thought about it. I sat down. I looked at my finances. I looked at how am I going to get to and from. It took me working from job to job to get to a job that will allow me where I can work from 6-2 and then have the rest of the afternoon off to go wrestle. A lot of jobs don’t allow people to work from 6 to 2pm&mash;6am to 2pm—
00:05:01	R:	You right![2]
00:05:02	D:	My sister tells me all the time that’s really unheard of. But I have a great job, that's flexible, that allows me to do what I need to do for wrestling. So in the grand scheme of things, all the pieces fell into place at the right time. At God’s timing—He has perfect timing.—
00:05:23	R:	Yes! God is great at that.
00:05:25	D:	😂Yeah, like that whole saying of “I’m not going to be there when you want me, but I’ll be there right on time.” And when I tell you, every place along this journey this journey of wrestling, He’s been right on time. It's been an amazing ride thus far and like my wrestling career has just taken off as far as being on TV, but I’ve just been truly amazed at how I had dreamed of being one of those guy that I saw on TV and here I am tomorrow—April 27th—I'm going to be on Ring of Hour TV.
00:06:02	R:	Yeah!
00:06:04	D:	😂 So it’s just, patience. I learned a lot about patience. And you learn a lot about patience in even with wrestling. When you first start you’re low man on the totem pole[3] and you have to put in—in the business it’s called paying your dues.
00:06:24	R:	Yeah, that's true everywhere. You got to pay your dues everywhere.
00:02:28	D:	For those people who don’t understand what paying dues means, if you understand Greek life then you understand having to be humble and having to be a neophyte at some point in time, and paying your dues. So, or like if you’re on like a varsity team, like in high school. Or I don’t know, you were in the band, so I'm pretty sure freshmen had to go get the water.
00:06:55	R:	Yeah, rookie status.
00:06:58	D:	Yeah, so everybody understands paying your dues. So in wrestling, paying your dues means showing up early to unload the truck, build the ring, set out chairs, do security during the show. Once the show’s over, break down everything, pack up the truck, go back to wherever the ring is stored, unload the ring, and do it all again next weekend—and have a smile on your face when you’re doing it.
00:07:54	R:	Exactly.
00:07:27	D:	So, and once again, a lot of guys don't make it because they don’t have the patience to deal with that. They just want to come, throw me in the ring and I want to look great. And it’s not that simple. You have to pay your dues; that’s just a part of patience. I had a lot of patience. I did it with a smile on my face. I actually was head of security while I was paying my dues. So I don't know how I got put in that position. It was just, I didn't think the way it was being run was being run correctly, so I stepped up and when I did it there were no more issues. So I don't know if
00:08:07	R:	Hey, that means you did something right!
00:08:09	D:	Well, you know, my pastor always says if something bothers you, then that’s your calling and you go do it.
00:08:15	R:	This is true.
00:08:16	D:	So at that time I was like, this isn’t being done right, so let me take it. But yeah, that’s my testimony on patience and where it’s gotten me thus far.
00:08:29	R:	Yeah! Thank you for sharing that. You know I struggle.
00:08:32	D:	No problem.
00:08:33	R:	I struggle with patience. One of the things I realized... So before I do each of my episodes, particularly on the Fruit of the Spirit, I look up like all the references to that Fruit of the Spirit in the Bible, and I'd like to tell y’all that I read every single one of them but that would be a bald-faced lie.
00:08:56	D+R:	😂
00:08:58	R:	But, I read as many as I can. And when I looked up the stuff on patience. You know, of course a lot of the stuff that you were talking, about about how going through tribulations and having endurance is part of building character and part of how God gets us where we need to be. It also aligned our goals with His timing. But one of the ideas crazy things that I realized is that as a looking at the Fruit of the Spirit, I felt like patience—whooo! Excuse me!—I felt like patience was the backbone. Like one of the things I've been noticing is that they’re, I don’t want to say interchangeable, but in order to have one of them you need the other. So for instance, like in order to love somebody, you have to be patient with them. But in order to be patient with them you have to love them. And so, like almost all of the Fruit of the Spirit, you can go through and see this correlation. Like in order to have joy you have to have patience; in order to have patience you kind of have to have joy, ‘cause you have to be content at the state that you're in in the moment.
00:10:16	R:	And I realized that—I know at least speaking for myself, probably for other people—the reason we struggle with each of these Fruits of the Spirit, particularly probably self-control, is because we don't have patience. And when I thought about it like that you know it it made me realize how important it is for me to slow down. And you know, one of the things you mentioned about like pride. We were talking about like what you thought you wanted. I think that ties into patience, as well. Like it's our pride that keeps us from wanting to wait, ‘cause we just want it now, and it's like a selfish instinct.
00:11:06	R:	And I I just thought it was interesting, because when I look at things... Like when I first started, I was making a list of things that I was good at being patient with and things I was bad at being patient with. And then I started to realize that there were still correlations between the two, and that it's really how quickly do I lose my patience. You know, you already know I am a person, I am guilty of road rage.
00:11:44	D:	😂
00:11:47	R:	It's sad, because it's not really about getting to the place. It's not usually like oh they're driving too slow and I want to get there, or anything like that. For me it's usually about the principle of the matter. So I almost always get road rage when I feel like somebody is in the wrong, but they're coming for me. So you have the person that cuts you off in traffic and then they honk at you, and I'm like “Why are you honking at me? You cut me off!” and then all of a sudden I'm like super angry. And you know I think when you said you know that your pastor said when you see something wrong or something bothers you, that’s you know you're calling. I feel like I just have this passion for like the principle of the thing. That's one of the like the number one things that like when I see people doing something that's clearly wrong, and then like being boastful about it, that it drives me up the wall.
00:12:53	D+R:	😂
00:12:55	R:	And I often wonder. Like I feel like sometimes we…Like there's the lack of patience, but like you shared your whole journey for becoming a wrestler. And I feel like sometimes we just want to take the easy way out, and so we see things that bother us, and we think like “Oh I should do XYZ. This is what it would take to fix it.” And then we’re like “Oh, that's a lot! I don't know if I can do that!” And so we try to stay back. But I think that that also makes us even more impatient, if that makes any sense. ‘Cause I feel like, because we're not fulfilling the purpose that God is calling us to, there's like this wrestling inside of us that shortens our patience even more.
00:13:57	D:	Right. Wow that’s awesome. That’s an interesting way to put that.
00:14:04	R:	Yeah. That's what I've been coming to the realization in the past couple of weeks.
00:14:09	D:	To me, I just think if everybody took the time to actually practice what they preach about patience, the world might be a little better. But like, this is like a big thing. So I attend a mega church, and every week when we get to the benediction, not even before we get to benediction. When Pastor gets to altar call, those who are already saved and already baptized or who just don’t want to be in church any more, get up and start leaving. 1 - because they don't want to get caught up in all the traffic. It’s a mega church and of course, once church let’s out, everybody trying to get out. And so traffic gets backed up trying to get out the Church. But, however, altar call is a time in which people are making the decision on whether or not to accept Christ into their life as their Lord and Savior, or they want to be baptized, or join the church. And the thing that he says all the time is, “At one point in time, you were the person who walked up here”—
00:15:32	R:	Yeah.
00:15:33	D:	The —“and when you did there was somebody in your row clapping and saying “Amen,” and encouraging you to come along. So how dare you get up and leave at this... Which is probably one of the most important times of this person’s life.
00:15:49	R:	Yeah can you imagine?
00:15:50	D:	And you’re just leaving! Huh?
00:15:52	R:	I was going to say, can you imagine if like somebody was like “Oh I want to get baptized,” and Peter’s like “OK, come, let's go get baptized,” and Paul's like, “I got places to be,” and he just bounced?
00:16:04	D:	😂 Right, Paul’s said I gotta go move my camel, cause I don’t have time to be out here with y’all no more.
00:16:11	D+R:	😂
00:16:16	D:	So when, stuff like that, like why can't we just be patient and wait? Like we're all, we all have the same goal. We all want to leave, but It’s not like the parking lot’s not going to get empty at some point in time. So stuff like that. It’s like we put our mindset of priorities in the wrong order. Why not stay and support our brothers and sisters who are trying to make that decision within themselves. When yet they’re being distracted, ‘cause you know, you got to pick up your purse, pick up your jacket, get your Bible. If you got kids, you got to get all their stuff together. You’re making a bunch of noise trying to go one way, but you trying to listen to Pastor make his plea for your soul. 😂
00:17:00	D:	That’s just one aspect. When you’re on your job, how many times have you seen a coworker, you know, they not acting themselves or they might be in tears. But you see them and you keep walking. I don't want to get involved. Well, what would happen if you took the time to just say, “Hey I don’t know what you’re going through, but I'm going to pray for you.” You know, and you might not want to get in their business and say “what’s wrong?” ‘Cause you could open up a whole ‘nother door. Just say I’m going to pray for you. You know, and you never know how that might change somebody's lives, but because we're all so, “I ain't got time to deal with that today.” You might have left that coworker sitting there. And then, but you don’t know what your prayer, what you just saying “I'll pray for you,” or “let's pray, so that you can get through this,” or that “God gives you the strength to get through this.” You know, you never know what that would do to somebody, or what that could do for somebody. And I just think that we're all in a rush, and we’re also focus on me, me, me, me, that sometimes God wants you to take time, be patient, and care for somebody else.
00:18:15	R:	Absolutely. I've definitely been trying to strengthen my patience. One of the things I think for me... So one of the things that I think, I don't remember who told me this, but somebody once told me that when you ask God for something, sometimes you got to go through a little pain to get to it.
0018:40	D:	Oh man!
00:18:41	R:	I know you go to the gym, so you're very aware of the saying “No pain, no gain.”
00:18:47	D:	Correct
00:18:48	R:	And so we were talking about patience and they were telling me, you know, like if you're asking God for patience, He got to give you something to give you patience. Like you don't just wake up one day and suddenly you’re patient. Like you got to go through the struggle to develop the patience.
00:19:04	D:	Right. It’s taught. It’s not understood right away.
00:19:13	R:
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And you know for me, my journey through grad school was a lot like your journey to wrestling—minus the physical injuries, but I feel like I got some like mental and emotional injuries going through grad school. And you know that was like one aspect of my life where I think I really developed patience in terms of like education, learning, my career... I learned a tremendous respect for people who are homeless, people who are struggling, because of the nature of my research. But I didn't necessarily get patience with interacting with people. Being a computer scientist— Y’all, funny story! I also have an undergraduate degree in Mathematical Sciences, that I also do not use.[4]

00:20:07	D+R:	😂
00:20:13	R:	Sad day for Mathematical Science. But it's a great tool; it was a building block. But you know in computer science, you don’t necessarily learn or cultivate patience with people. And so one of the things that I felt called to do recently was to help with the youth at the church. People were calling for help with the youth, and I know what it means to have people of varying ages with their hands into the youth. So there's there's something to be said about having someone that's closer to your age that's been through what you've been through but has like a little bit of wisdom but isn't like your parents’ age, that can kind of like talk to you and do things. And so I agreed to be a mentor. How I went from being a mentor to being a teacher. I don't know how that happened, but somehow that happened.
00:21:21	R:	And you know when I first said “OK,” I was like “I don't know if I can do this. I don't know if I have the patience. I don't know if I have the skill-set. Like I don't really know about this.” But the more I go into it, the more I realize late “Oh Shiree, you got to go through it and succeed.” One, you have to succeed because these are the children. These are the youth. These are the young minds that are coming in to Christ, and if you screw this up. you done screwed up big-time. Like you can't screw up somebody else's salvation. And then I was like God is calling you to do this, so you got to learn patience. And like in order to learn it, you will have to go through it.
00:22:08	R:	So, you know, it's a thing. But it's also a blessing, because I found that, you know, just like in your story. There are valleys, but after every valley, God will give you a mountain. And you know, sometimes I'll be sitting in that class like I don't... I don't know what's going on. I don't know how to take control of this class. I don't know if I should like go zero to a hundred, or if I should go back all the way off. I don't know how to handle the situation, but then like one of the students will do something or say something or they'll take control of class, and I'm just like mystified by how things fall together and how things happen. And I'm just like “Wow. So God is here and He's handling the situation.” All I really gotta do is show up and trust Him. And that's that's the definition of patience just show up and trust God.
00:23:07	D:	Absolutely.
00:23:08	R:	😂
00:23:10	D:	At this point, absolutely. That’s all you have to live by. Just show up and trust God. I don’t know, you know. I’m thankful for where I am. It was a complete surprise, for me, but I know that God is working and He has a plan. So at this point, I just literally show up and trust God with all that I do.
00:23:36	D:	Absolutely. So thank you so much for coming. I know your time is precious! Thank you for coming on the show and sharing all of his knowledge about wis—ah, wisdom. I was trying to say wisdom and knowledge at the same time, got all kind of tongue-tied. But yeah thank you for sharing knowledge and wisdom about patience and for sharing your testimony.
00:24:07	D:	No thank you for having me.
00:24:10	R:	Of course! Before I let you go, do you have any final words to share with the listeners?
00:24:21	D:	The thing God wants you to experience, He’'ll put you through a test to see whether you pass it. And whether you pass it or not, you will be tested with that thing time and time again. So if the thing you need to learn is patience, He might test you today, and if you pass it today OK cool. But then tomorrow, will you pass that test again? You know, that's kind of His way of like building upon your foundation, your level of patience. You now people will say “I’ve reached my highest level of patience today.” Alright, well, how can we get another level added to your patience?
00:25:07	D:	No matter what it is—whether you’re dealing with anger, whether you’re dealing with trying to forgive people—you're going through something now, that doesn’t mean you’re not going to go through something even worse later on, but you’re going through this now. Trying to work on forgiving people because you’re going to need this foundation of forgiveness down the road. And that just applies to anything that He's trying to teach you. So if it's patience, patience isn't just going to be applied to your life right now. It's being taught to you right now, because a foundation needs to be built. That way, later on down the road, you can fall back on what you already learned to help you through that experience.
00:25:56	R:	I feel that.
00:25:59	D:	I hope that helps.
00:26:01	R:	Yeah. I love it. Thank you
00:26:04	D:	You are welcome.
00:26:07	R:	Alright listeners, thank you for listening, and I hope you enjoyed it, and I hope that will make you think about patience. Don't forget to like and subscribe. And I will see you guys in the next episode. Bye